not only voiceless, but choice-less: the impregnanted victims of boko haram

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#bringbackourgirlsThe rescue of hundreds of Nigerian women and girls from terrorist group Boko Haram received more press coverage than the human rights of women and girls are generally allocated. But what wasn’t included in that coverage is how the U.S. is actively denying those same women and girls the medical care they desperately need. 

Many of those rescued were raped and forcibly impregnated while being held captive. This is becoming an all too common tactic of war, employed by Boko Haram and other groups such as the so-called Islamic State. The governor of Borno State in Nigeria, where Boko Haram is most active, told reporters, “The sect leaders make a very conscious effort to impregnate the women…Some of them, I was told, even pray before mating, offering supplications for God to make the products of what they are doing become children that will inherit their ideology.”

In Iraq and Syria, one humanitarian aid worker described the Islamic State’s strategy of systematic rape and forced pregnancy as having the goal of breaking “their spirits so they would become compliant mothers to children of the Islamic caliphate.” Continue reading…

inside the duggars’ dark world

We’ve deliberately not touched on the controversy surrounding the formerly rather popular family of 19 Kids and Counting. There didn’t seem to be much to say: the family that many Americans enjoyed watching as a “good, wholesome family” fell from grace with the reveal of abuse inside the family and what was and was not done about it.

Perhaps it’s only because they’ve been revealed to be not so perfect that people are actually beginning to talk about what they represent outside of the conservative value and big happy family they oozed. Check out this article from Ms. Magazine on the intersection between the Duggars and the conservative movements they’re the public faces of the Independent Fundamentalist Baptists, the Advanced Training Institute and others all under the umbrella of the Christian Patriarchy movement and the bizarrely popular Christian purity movement.

christian family values: how to punish a wife if she won’t ‘pleasure’ her husband

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Some of the more unbelievable excerpts from this new book:

“But I want you to understand something, it is not your responsibility to keep your wife in the marriage by any means necessary, and certainly not by giving in to her willful, rebellious and sinful behavior.”

“Change your bank account so her ATM card becomes worthless. Cancel your credit cards. If she does have a job, stop paying for anything in her name and make her pay for any credit that is in her name. The Bible only requires that you provide her with food, clothing and shelter. It does not say that food and clothing has to be the fancy kind she likes to get.”

“You have the option to divorce her for her sexual immorality.”

The breakdown reads like something from decades ago when women were much more reliant upon their fathers and then their husbands to eek out a living, and assumes that women are completely unable to be self-reliant. Not to mention that none of what this book seems to contain is good advice for a healthy relationship.

social media campaign calls on women to thank men for not raping them

We see a lot of nonsensical things in this day and age, but this has got to be one of the most confounding. It really is a pointless endeavor that tries to imply that “good men’s” hurt feelings are more important than the very real issues and threats women deal with on a daily basis. Take a look at the full article here.

i had an abortion to save my life

This is just one example of how the abortion, reproductive health and reproductive justice debates are not nearly as black and white as debating politicians would like people to believe. Each and every one of these decisions is deeply personal and deeply felt and definitely not something women need overbearing “help” with.

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The deepest grief I ever experienced was over the loss of a life that I, myself, ended. I was so traumatized by the entire experience that I was diagnosed with post-traumatic stress disorder.

I had all the symptoms: flashbacks, nightmares, panic attacks. I would obsessively replay the scene in the abortion clinic over and over again in my mind, desperately wanting it to un-happen. I would have sacrificed a limb instead, if I could have. But that wasn’t the choice I was given.

My options were to lose a pregnancy or lose my life, and… well, I guess you could say I chose life.

I had been overjoyed when I found out I was pregnant. I thought there might be a little trouble at first because I suffer from a number of chronic health problems that would no doubt be difficult to treat without medication, but I figured they would all be manageable. Continue reading…

How School Dress Codes Shame Girls and Perpetuate Rape Culture

How School Dress Codes Shame Girls and Perpetuate Rape Culture

Really powerful article and video. A lot of people don’t understand how pervasive rape culture and rape culture components are. Telling girls and women to dress certain ways to illicit or not to illicit certain reactions from their male teachers and male classmates IS rape culture. It assumes that the natural state of every male is rapist, teaches girls that they are responsible for being assaulted and tells boys that they are not responsible for assaulting.

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Some of our most powerful and lasting ideas about the world around us are learned at school. Hard work pays off. Success comes from working together. Girls’ bodies are dangerous and harassment is inevitable.

This might sound inflammatory, but it is not an exaggeration. It is the overriding message being sent to thousands of students around the world by sexist school dress codes and the way in which they are enforced.

In the past month alone a Canadian teen says she was given detention for wearing a full length maxi dress because it violated her school dress code by showing her shoulders and back and a UK school announced plans to ban skirts altogether.

These are just the most recent cases in an ever-growing list that has seen shoulders and knees become a battleground, leggings and yoga pants banned and girls in some cases reportedly told to flap their arms…

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