reddit sub-group says raping women is ‘morally justifiable’ and ‘brave’ because it ‘corrects’ feminist behavior

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This is one article you might want to brace yourself before reading. I’m not taken aback by much these days and I literally got sick to my stomach the further into the material from this sub group I got. I can’t say that this mentality is surprising – after all, rape has been used as a weapon of war and is by definition about control rather than sexual gratification – but to see it written out by supposedly “modern” men and in our supposedly “advanced” society is disturbing, to say the least. Especially when you think about how the person/people who wrote this are walking around in a neighborhood that could be yours, looking and girls and women and judging them, and thinking about raping them to correct [fill in the blank].

There was more than one reader who commented that the whole sub-Reddit was a joke. To them, and anyone who found this even remotely funny, I want to say: you need help. There is nothing funny about sexual assault and rape. Not one goddamned thing. Rape jokes are part of what enables rape culture; if this kind of crime is not taken seriously (which laughing at it implies that it’s not serious) then women and men both who have been attacked are less likely to seek justice or help. When you find rape jokes amusing (or even if you’re trying to justify such gross comments as comedy), you’re telling victims that their trauma isn’t real, that the perpetrator isn’t a criminal.

Based on the language in the responding comments, it’s unlikely this group is any kind of joke. It also appears to be the work of only one individual, though that’s a small enough good thing. Part of eliminating rape culture starts with correcting mentalities like this; this kind of objectification and cruelty doesn’t have any place in our world, and it is up to both men and women to see it erased.


“it’s not rape it’s a snuggle with a struggle” t-shirt

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It's not rape t-shirtYes, you read that correctly. I’ve looked at this article several times now and I still get sick to my stomach to think that this actually fucking ended up on a shirt that was sold in the Philippines until store managers pulled them, and can still be bought online from a U.S. based shop.

I’m just going to give you a couple of minutes to let this sink in. According to the article, the shirt wasn’t pulled until social media blew up with rage. So that means that someone designed this T-shirt, someone approved it, multiple someones printed the shirts, packaged them, shipped them, opened the boxes in the back of the stores and hung them up on the racks. And no one read it and thought, “Gee, that’s rather offensive. This shouldn’t be on a t-shirt, let alone for sale.” It took a tourist snapping a pic to get them to take note.

We’ve come to expect a certain level of ignorant blindness when dealing with rape culture, but sometimes the evidence of that lack of understanding is hard to comprehend.

different understandings of beauty

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Woman1This is rather an older article; I’m pretty sure I first saw it over a year ago, but when it resurfaced on one of the many outlets I follow I found it just as fascinating the second time around. This woman took an unaltered photo of herself and emailed it to 40 graphic artists from 25 different countries and her only instructions were to make her beautiful. It’s amazing how different each one is. Some added copious amounts of blush and eyeshadow, others changed the lines of her face, neck, and shoulders, or altered her hair or skin tone. One of the Indian artists actually removed her collarbones. The Morocco artist added a traditional head covering. Now while it’s understood that  “beauty” as defined by these artists isn’t necessarily inductive of their region’s stereotypical definition, it does highlight just how open to interpretation the concept is.  Every one of them is altered though; so what does it say about us that no one sent the picture back to her just the way it was?

beginning excerpt from “An Understanding of Reproductive Health and Justice from a Grieving Mother”

April 27th, 2014

We looked at the pictures one of my nurses, Lisa, took of you tonight. You would have been a week old yesterday. It was hard to see you from different angles and to see our parents grieving over you, but I needed to know. I needed to know the totality of what we have of you. Now everything is accounted for. We have your little shirt and swaddling blanket, your crochet blanket, your beautiful locks of hair, the mold impressions of both feet, the ink impressions of both hands and feet, the little hat they first put on you, the ugly bonnet I took off the second they put it on, and a disc with 54 pictures. . .


A Letter to Pro-Lifers

October 5th, 2012


Dear Pro-Lifer,

Let’s get a few things straight so that we may discuss this sensitive and important topic without any lies or slander flying around. Abortion is a horrible thing to have to contemplate. It doesn’t matter which side of the issue you fall on, no one wants a single woman to find herself in a position where she is carrying an unwanted child, a child she fears she cannot care for, a child conceived because of rape, etc. So if you have ever thrown names like baby-haters or baby-killers at someone else – stop it. Being pro-choice does not mean being pro killing babies. You are the reason that ambiguity exists, because you didn’t have the decency to keep the facts straight. You allowed this significant little obscurity into the debate, and even supported it. How can we have a real discussion when we cannot stop playing the name game like fourth graders?

We have a common goal. We both want a world where abortions are a thing of the past, we just differ on how to get there. Now, virtually everyone out there has an opinion on abortion, and most people are passionate about their position. Imagine if both sides, all those people, were to realize the actuality of their goal—abortions no longer being a necessity—and work together to see it happen?

The women in these positions are pushed up against a wall. They are desperate and without help. They want to be strong, but there are too many things stacked against them. Do not condemn the woman who contemplates and eventually has an abortion in your god’s name; you do not know where she stands with god. Blame the system that did not support her enough to have the child. Blame the education system for not providing adequate means to prevent a child in the first place. Blame yourself; if you wanted her to have that baby, why did you not go to her, tell her that no matter what she was dealing with you would help her? Why were you not there for her?

At this point, you may feel personally attacked, and allow me to reassure you that is completely my intent. When I say you, I mean YOU. Not your political party, not your community or your church. You. You are to blame for her abortion. Your soul will bear the mark of her decision. Your conscious will be plagued by could-have-been’s. If you disagree with the way I have categorized you here then flame the hell out of me and then go do something about it! Please! You have let others represent you and these are the lies they have told to muddy the water. You are silent, and in the absence of voice you become a statistic, a number used to support ideas you had no part in creating. Feel appreciated?

We want a world where women’s inalienable rights to our own bodies are recognized and respected. You want a world where babies are not killed. The two are not mutually exclusive.


One of the biggest problems women by and large have with the reproductive health, contraceptives and abortions argument is that many of the people voicing their opinions should not be. Men speak often as if they have legitimate understanding of what it is to be a pregnant woman. Political men, ideological men, men who think they carry power enough to sway the world, men on the streets, men in their pulpits and the men in our lives. Everywhere an inkling of this discussion exists there exists a man who has never been pregnant and who has never been in an intimate relationship with a woman while she was pregnant, who feels justified in speaking his mind and demanding that his vision of the world be met.

Let me first establish my right to speak and write on these delicate and tremendously important topics. I am a woman. I am a woman who has periods and is biologically and physically capable of carrying and giving birth to a child. I am a woman who, in April of 2014, gave birth to a daughter who only lived for forty-seven minutes because her lungs were underdeveloped. I am an eternally-grieving mother who is still staunchly pro-choice. For those who have never lost a child, there are no words that I can write and you can read that can explain the agony, the never-ending totality of being without your child. Even carrying this grief as I do, though, and hating even more than I ever have the idea of a child lost, I still support each and every woman’s right to choose for herself if and when she will be a mother. My first question to you, as my reader, is simply this – do you still feel justified in voicing and attempting to force your opinion on another?

feminism from pat robertson

This man is a moron, and each time he opens his mouth he paints himself more and more in this light. Recently, he told his followers on the popular “700 Club” TV show that gays in San Francisco are you to “getcha” with a ring that will cut you when you shake their hand and thus get AIDS. I don’t know whether to laugh at his stupidity or cry because people actually watch him, listen to him, believe him. This is a man who mainstream Christianity lets speak for all of them; this man is one of their role models. c


feminism (pat robertson)



we are feminists

Feminism is not a bad word, or at least it should not have a negative cogitation. It’s simply the idea that women are people too, and should be treated with the same respect, and have access to the same rights, as male counterparts. It’s not hard to see that women are suffering in our world for being female.

Why We are Feminists