‘Listen up ladies’: Fox News kids off New Year with absurdly sexist advice for ‘catering to your man’
Not that anything said on Faux New is at all legitimate… but it’s continually perplexing how anyone could think that advice like this, structured in this manner, directed as it is, could be construed as something that is okay to say – especially to a huge audience. Especially in a day and age when “wife” so frequently means so much more than stay-at-home domestic partner and women are frequently carrying more than their weight in family responsibilities. The only way I can think to show how ridiculous this stuff sounds is to change the pronouns:
Yeah, I do want to be a better husband.
When she gets her ego stroked, she’ll be more inclined to love you more.
One way a man could stroke a woman’s ego would be to “prepare her meals, draw her a bath and massage her feet every now and then.
Of course a healthy relationship is one that involves both partners taking care of each other without expecting anything in return because they love each other, as Earhardt points out. But women are always the ones on the receiving end of advice like this, bearing the brunt of keeping her partner happy and the relationship going. That’s not how real relationships work.
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Setting aside the fact that Laura Ingraham works for Fox News, this is yet another example of why it’s so important to educate everyone about rape culture. This is one facet of it right here – victim blaming. Supporting this idea that girls and women are someone able to control potential rapists by what they wear. The idea that women and girls are at all responsible for the actions of others. I fail to understand how we can say this in an easier-to-understand way. Women and girls are not responsible for preventing their rapes; potential rapists are responsible for not raping.
Take this scenario for instance: A young man goes out to a bar with several friends after a hard week and gets drunk. So drunk that, as he’s waiting for a taxi to take him home, he doesn’t realize that his wallet has been stolen. Is it his fault his wallet was stolen? Was he asking for it because he was drunk? Was he asking for it because of what he was wearing? Was he asking for it because of where he was at that time of night? Was he asking for it because of his behavior and general demeanor? Of course not. The only person at fault is the thief. These questions sound ridiculous in this situation and yet these are the exact things that are asked of rape victims by people who have no concept of what rape and rape culture are. The fact that so large a group of people in our world not only do not find these questions deplorable in context of rape, but also deliberately ask them, and in turn encourage misinformation, is rape culture.