an answer to those who use the bible to justify being anti-marriage equality

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This article is rather campy, but the original quotes are brilliant.

Mike Huckabee posted on his Facebook page:

“I may be lonely, I may be the only one, but I’m going to stand absolutely faithful to the issue of marriage not because it’s a politically expedient thing to do because it isn’t. I’m going to do it because I believe it’s the right position, it’s the biblical position, it’s the historical position.”

And here was the answer:

“There is no one biblical position on marriage, there are many and they include situations in which a soldier could take a POW as a wife, where a rapist was forced to marry his victim after paying her father 50 shekels (but only if he was caught) and polygamy. Does your support for biblical marriage mean you do not recognize interfaith marriages? Do you think marriages should be arranged and that women should be subservient to their husbands? Is there an upper limit on the number of wives and concubines or are you in the “As many as you can afford” camp? Do you think brides who cannot prove their virginity should be stoned to death?

I’m guessing it’s a big “Yes sir!” on the subservient thing because treating women as equals, doing right by them and working towards consensus is harder than reminding your partner that the Bible says she is a sandwich maker.

Historically speaking marriages could be dissolved if there were no offspring produced. Are you in favor of this pre-Christian convention? I’m not. I believe in love and I think the Christians got it right on that one. Speaking of Christians and the historical position: You people don’t always get it right. Same sex marriages were performed in ancient Rome, Greece, Mesopotamia, Africa, Asia and across the western hemisphere in the pre-Columbian era and, as John Boswell noted in his ‘Same-Sex Unions in Pre-Modern Europe’ same-sex marriages were pretty normal up until the Christians took over in Europe.

So you can drop the “not because it’s a politically expedient thing to do” crap.”


8 important facts that prove good sex knows no size limit

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Something body image related today for wombs in rebellion. As with anything body image related there are a lot of misconceptions women (in particular, but men as well) who do not fit our narrow definition of stereotypical beauty have to deal with. *whispers* The thing is that almost everyone has sex. We’re versatile enough to overcome a lot to get that high, especially when paired with a safe environment and a trusted partner. The sooner we stop stigmatizing sex the sooner we can address all of the sex-related problems we have and move on to addressing actual problems.

14 things you should never say to a feminist

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LoveFeminism has helped make the world a better place for both women and men, yet it’s still widely misunderstood, in part due to the perpetuation of sometimes offensive and laughable stereotypes. These ill-informed ideas divert the conversations we should be having about achieving gender equality.

Modern feminism isn’t about tearing down men, it’s about eradicating the misogyny and harmful gender stereotypes that affect everyone, not just women. At its core, feminism is also about equality, fairness and tolerance; the fact that people still don’t grasp these principles may explain the plethora of misguided statements that always seem to accompany conversations about feminism.

Aren’t we past this yet? Here are 14 things feminists are just plain tired of hearing. Continue reading…

reddit sub-group says raping women is ‘morally justifiable’ and ‘brave’ because it ‘corrects’ feminist behavior

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This is one article you might want to brace yourself before reading. I’m not taken aback by much these days and I literally got sick to my stomach the further into the material from this sub group I got. I can’t say that this mentality is surprising – after all, rape has been used as a weapon of war and is by definition about control rather than sexual gratification – but to see it written out by supposedly “modern” men and in our supposedly “advanced” society is disturbing, to say the least. Especially when you think about how the person/people who wrote this are walking around in a neighborhood that could be yours, looking and girls and women and judging them, and thinking about raping them to correct [fill in the blank].

There was more than one reader who commented that the whole sub-Reddit was a joke. To them, and anyone who found this even remotely funny, I want to say: you need help. There is nothing funny about sexual assault and rape. Not one goddamned thing. Rape jokes are part of what enables rape culture; if this kind of crime is not taken seriously (which laughing at it implies that it’s not serious) then women and men both who have been attacked are less likely to seek justice or help. When you find rape jokes amusing (or even if you’re trying to justify such gross comments as comedy), you’re telling victims that their trauma isn’t real, that the perpetrator isn’t a criminal.

Based on the language in the responding comments, it’s unlikely this group is any kind of joke. It also appears to be the work of only one individual, though that’s a small enough good thing. Part of eliminating rape culture starts with correcting mentalities like this; this kind of objectification and cruelty doesn’t have any place in our world, and it is up to both men and women to see it erased.

“it’s not rape it’s a snuggle with a struggle” t-shirt

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It's not rape t-shirtYes, you read that correctly. I’ve looked at this article several times now and I still get sick to my stomach to think that this actually fucking ended up on a shirt that was sold in the Philippines until store managers pulled them, and can still be bought online from a U.S. based shop.

I’m just going to give you a couple of minutes to let this sink in. According to the article, the shirt wasn’t pulled until social media blew up with rage. So that means that someone designed this T-shirt, someone approved it, multiple someones printed the shirts, packaged them, shipped them, opened the boxes in the back of the stores and hung them up on the racks. And no one read it and thought, “Gee, that’s rather offensive. This shouldn’t be on a t-shirt, let alone for sale.” It took a tourist snapping a pic to get them to take note.

We’ve come to expect a certain level of ignorant blindness when dealing with rape culture, but sometimes the evidence of that lack of understanding is hard to comprehend.