Women and girls are still captives and prizes of war. When will this end?
Nigeria’s military has claimed to have rescued 200 girls and 93 women from a notorious Boko Haram stronghold, but an army official said they were not those kidnapped from Chibok a year ago.
“Troops have this afternoon captured & destroyed three camps of terrorists inside the Sambisa forest & rescued 200 girls & 93 women,” defence spokesman Chris Olukolade said in a text message on Tuesday, referring to the area in north-east Borno state where the Islamists have bases.
Olukolade gave no indication as to how long it would take for the hostages to be identified, although an army spokesman said they were not from Chibok.
Boko Haram claimed responsibility for the abduction of 276 girls from a secondary school in Chibok, also in Borno, on 14 April last year. Fifty seven girls escaped within hours of the attack but 219 remained in captivity. Read more…
Even though the date on the original post tells me that this has been on the world wide web for several months now, I’m blown away. This is quite possibly the most body image positive thing I’ve ever seen, and it’s such a simple idea too! The pictures really speak for themselves:
Expose: Shedding Light on Collective Beauty
“If a woman drives from one city to another and her car breaks down, what will become of her?” he asked.
“Well, women drive in America, in Europe, and in the Arab world,” the host noted.
“They don’t care if they are raped on the roadside, but we do,” Al-Saadoon insisted.
“Hold on,” the host interrupted. “Who told you they don’t care about getting raped on the roadside?”
“It’s not a big deal for them beyond the damage to their morale,” Al-Saadoon opined. “In our case, however, the problem is of a social and religious nature.”
Facepalm is right. How can we expect to move forward on eliminating rape culture when people who speak to wide audiences clearly have no clue?
For years, this vitriol has left me puzzled and asking: WHY is this happening? WHY is loving yourself so controversial? WHY U SO MAD WORLD?
Well, I learned why and it’s because of a thing I like to call Body Currency.
It goes like something this: we are taught as a society that IF we achieve the ideal body that we see in traditional media (and not before) we will then obtain love, worthiness, success and ultimately- happiness. Which is what we all want, right?
Because the vast majority of our culture buys into this, we have millions upon millions of people investing everything they have into achieving this ultimate goal. The goal being- thinness which obviously equals happiness, remember? (Note: other body “goals” also apply here, like able bodied/lighter skin color/cisgender appearance etc.) SO, they spend their lives in a perpetual state of self-loathing (its called inspiration!) while working their asses off to become that ideal. We, as Americans, sink billions of dollars into beauty products every year. Between the millions of us on diets, we gift the weight loss industry and other weight loss products over $60 billion dollars as well. 14 million of us had cosmetic procedures in 2012 and yes, that number keeps growing. Perhaps we starve ourselves or maybe we just fixate on our calorie count like it determines our salvation. Maybe we make the gym our god. Whatever we choose individually, we as a country have made ‘fixing our bodies’ our main obsession and we let it consume our life. This happens for most of us whether we choose to acknowledge it or not. We live to give the quest towards impossible perfection (marketed as happiness) our all.
So THEN after all of this, when a fat chick- who hasn’t done the work, who hasn’t tried to fix her body, who doesn’t have any interest in the gospel we so zealously believe in, stands up and says: I’M HAPPY! …we freak the fuck out.
Because: that bitch just broke the rules. She just cut in front of us in line. She just unwittingly ripped us off. And she essentially made our lifetime of work totally meaningless.
I’ve seen several different timeline representations for “ideal” female beauty through the ages the past several months, though I can’t say that I’ve seen much consistency between them. And I’m not sure how I feel about them, either. On the one hand, there’s something to be said for pointing out that our one dimensional definition of beauty isn’t all encompassing and actually hasn’t been around that long. It’s definitely something to take into consideration from a health and body image perspective. But on the other, we don’t see matching videos for men. Should we take this as an indication that society’s definition of “ideal” male beauty hasn’t changed much? Or is it just that body type isn’t something of significance where guys are concerned?
This article is rather campy, but the original quotes are brilliant.
Mike Huckabee posted on his Facebook page:
“I may be lonely, I may be the only one, but I’m going to stand absolutely faithful to the issue of marriage not because it’s a politically expedient thing to do because it isn’t. I’m going to do it because I believe it’s the right position, it’s the biblical position, it’s the historical position.”
And here was the answer:
“There is no one biblical position on marriage, there are many and they include situations in which a soldier could take a POW as a wife, where a rapist was forced to marry his victim after paying her father 50 shekels (but only if he was caught) and polygamy. Does your support for biblical marriage mean you do not recognize interfaith marriages? Do you think marriages should be arranged and that women should be subservient to their husbands? Is there an upper limit on the number of wives and concubines or are you in the “As many as you can afford” camp? Do you think brides who cannot prove their virginity should be stoned to death?
I’m guessing it’s a big “Yes sir!” on the subservient thing because treating women as equals, doing right by them and working towards consensus is harder than reminding your partner that the Bible says she is a sandwich maker.
Historically speaking marriages could be dissolved if there were no offspring produced. Are you in favor of this pre-Christian convention? I’m not. I believe in love and I think the Christians got it right on that one. Speaking of Christians and the historical position: You people don’t always get it right. Same sex marriages were performed in ancient Rome, Greece, Mesopotamia, Africa, Asia and across the western hemisphere in the pre-Columbian era and, as John Boswell noted in his ‘Same-Sex Unions in Pre-Modern Europe’ same-sex marriages were pretty normal up until the Christians took over in Europe.
So you can drop the “not because it’s a politically expedient thing to do” crap.”
Something body image related today for wombs in rebellion. As with anything body image related there are a lot of misconceptions women (in particular, but men as well) who do not fit our narrow definition of stereotypical beauty have to deal with. *whispers* The thing is that almost everyone has sex. We’re versatile enough to overcome a lot to get that high, especially when paired with a safe environment and a trusted partner. The sooner we stop stigmatizing sex the sooner we can address all of the sex-related problems we have and move on to addressing actual problems.